There is a kind of good self-cultivation, which is called pleasant face.

I particularly agree with the sentence in Zhihu:

in fact, some people's emotions are like kaleidoscope; some people's faces are like chameleons.

some people have very different attitudes towards different people.

in the eyes of classmates, colleagues, friends, and neighbors, it may be generally recognized that they are gentle and gentle towards people, while in the eyes of their parents or vulnerable people, they may be cold and vicious.

therefore, being able to treat people with a pleasant face is a person's best self-cultivation!

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treating people with a pleasant face can give people a sense of kindness, a sense of pleasure, and a sense of approachability.

A pleasant face should not be "tailored" or "served by spectators", but should be treated equally.

there are "three changes" to a pleasant face.

the first "easy": it is too easy to treat a leader with a pleasant face and an easygoing face.

because he is the leader and boss, people instinctively will be respectful and submissive, lest they should be slightly careless and offended.

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the second "Yi": it is easier to be kind to people who "need it".

because many people like to "employ people forward, not backward." maybe I want to use you for a promotion, maybe I want to get rich with you, maybe I need you for something.

naturally I will be kind to you.

the third "Yi": it is easy to be kind to people who are sociable.

because most people who communicate normally have no fundamental conflict of interest. Hello, hello to me, the well water does not invade the river, and we can "greet each other with a smile, get along with each other, and send each other off with a smile."

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there are three difficulties in being agreeable.

the first "difficulty": treat your parents kindly.

parents are the dearest to us, and they are also the ones who can bear us to lose our temper the most!

you lose your temper with your parents wantonly because you know that your parents are the most tolerant people in the world, you know that your parents are the ones who can bear grievances in front of you, and you know that your parents are the ones who can tolerate you and give you love unconditionally!

parents can tolerate you losing your temper because they understand that their children can't easily lose their temper with their classmates and colleagues, nor with their friends, let alone with their leaders.

they also understand that you have no choice but to lose your temper at home, or even act like a spoiled child.

however, no matter what the reason is, we must understand:

when you stare and stare, your parents will be heartbroken. They are extremely enduring grievances, suffering sadness, suppressing anger, and they also need your agreeable face!

the second "difficulty": treat the weak with a pleasant face.

some people cannot be treated on the same platform, respect or even discriminate against their own weak people.

when getting along with and communicating with them, they tend to be condescending and dismissive, making each other feel cold, sad and bitter.

the third "difficulty" is to be kind to people who are not friendly to you.

some people have different values from their own, or have had friction and contradictions. Once they meet and get along with each other, or keep a straight face, or stand up their nose and eyes, or speak harshly, both sides will feel unhappy.

being kind to people is a person's greatest self-cultivation and best self-cultivation.

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only those who are kind to life can be treated gently by fate.

We should always remind ourselves that

a pleasant face is a good accomplishment. It is annoying to treat people with a mean voice and a frosty face.

treat people with a pleasant face and enthusiasm, which will make people feel warm and warm.